Have you ever been set up by a "friend" or a family member except the people didn't have your best interests at heart? I have. Thankfully just a few times.
I didn't ask these people to try to find someone for me to marry because I don't trust their choices. A couple of them aren't what I would consider really good or practicing Muslims. One seemed to be intelligent but on inquiring about the person I realized it didn't matter what the guy was like just as long as I wasn't being choosy. It's the concept of just get married even if it's a miserable life because you aren't worth anything without a marriage. And the person got offended that I refused to talk to the guy. That itself told me this person doesn't care about me. None of these people are my parents. Infact, I would have been happy if my parents would have found the person but they left the decision upto me as long as he meets a few of their criteria. Alhumdulillah. I refused to discuss the matter with 2 such people and the others my parents ignored their suggestions because they knew what the people were like.
I dislike how insincere people are and they try to force you into accepting their insincere gestures and hope the worst for you. It would be better if such people don't bother helping me and let me make the decisions since my parents have given me that freedom.
PS: This isn't meant to be a rant, just a distasteful experience.
10 years ago
